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All are valuable — because they teach you more about what you truly want and need.

8. Give yourselves space to build a genuine bond. Not sure how to explain the dynamics. The fact that I watched tells you something.

-Curtis/39 Hetero male

21. Briefly, we both reached out and touched one another. Everyone knew the money was good in Boystown so most of the cabbies tried to grab fares on weekends by the bars.

One time, I picked up a ride by a guy who wanted a lift downtown.

We ended up messing around. I applaud you for having the confidence to pursue your newfound desires. Others become fun memories or important learning moments. Be honest from the get-go that you’re curious

Whether you want to hook up with someone you’re already acquainted with (usually a gym bro, according to most porn), or you’ve been involved in a charged emoji swap on Grindr, honesty is fundamental from the beginning.

Two years ago, another guy who was my age was put on the night-shift. I bet a lot of guys have had gay experiences and they are just too chicken to talk about it.”

-Kelly/38 Says he straight

22. The setup was three guys to a dorm. Given interest in this topic, we thought it might be helpful to share some of these with readers.

Below is a podcast (E17) that features an email from a listener who identifies as straight but recently found himself attracted to another man at his gym.

Everyone should be able to explore their curiosities in a pleasurable and positive way, and it’s important to understand that you can try new things without subscribing to any fixed labels. The weird thing is we never talked about it. But once I got it out of my system, I’ve really never had any desire to do it again.

But that was years ago. If you are seeking a professional space to process these experiences or manage related anxiety, specialized support is available. I think that qualifies as my first gay experience. But when we weren’t at work, we did make out a few times and more. On the job, I got to know one of the guys [Mike] who was a little older than me.

Your date will be pissed off if they’ve wasted a good outfit on someone who just wants to screw around.

Be clear about what you’re looking for, and everyone wins.